As we watched When Harry Met Sally, I asked my best friend if he agreed with Harry’s view that
men and women can’t be friends. What he told me was something so simple yet impactful, that it has
stayed on my mind even after nearly a decade. He said, when a girl and a guy are best friends, it’s like
they are travelling together. At one point, their friendship reaches a crossroad; one road leads to love
and the other continues to friendship. And it is their choice that determines the course and future of
their bond. So simply put. Now if only life worked as simply as that!
If you’re among the lucky ones where both you and your best friend opted for the same path
and lived happily ever after, whether together or with different people, you may please not read any
further. Evidently you have lady luck’s blessings! But what happens when one chooses love and the
other chooses friendship? That is when an emotional roller coaster ride begins… ‘Cuz now things seem
different. She never realized before just how much she liked his cologne. Or he never noticed how pretty
she actually looked when she giggled at his jokes. Doesn’t it feel unfair sometimes that if you love
someone it’s not necessary that they should love you back? You know what makes it more miserable?
It’s when your friend, whom you love so much, finds a potential date and goes yap yap yap about just
how perfect their date is and how they think this person could be “the one”. And you’re just sitting
there, thinking, really, are you blind… Can you not see me or how we’re so perfect together…
Ask most people what is the one quality they look for in a potential life partner and pat comes
the reply, a good friend! They say a friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you the
same. That’s probably one of the reasons why falling in love with your best friend feels so natural.
They’ve seen you at your worst and never judged you. They know you in and out and understand you in
a way that nobody else can. When someone means so much, is it really worth risking the friendship?
It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. When asked what is the one
thing they truly regret, I’ve heard a lot of people say “Not telling someone how much I loved them when
I had the chance”. Think of yourself ten years down the lane. Do you want to live with that regret? A
wise man once said, life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans. Over thinking and over
analyzing tends to ruin situations and make you see things as worse than they actually are. If you love
your best friend, tell them. May be it’s exactly what they’ve been scared to tell you as well! Even if your
love gets turned down, you’ll know you at least tried. And who knows… may be years from now, you’ll
both be sitting in a café either gazing into each other eyes on a romantic evening or even laughing your
heads off that once upon a time you thought you were “apparently” in love! It's time to do
everything like there is no tomorrow. Even love! Tell someone how much they mean to you. You might
just find yourself celebrating the day of love with your special someone. Enough with the he loves me,
he loves me not. Should I tell him, or should I not…