I really, really don’t care if women call me regressive, or prehistoric or whatever they want to call me. I will say this again and again and again and keep saying this because I care!
Our country is socially, morally, economically and in every other perceivable sense not ready to give the kind of freedom, equality and safe passage that women expect or observe in developed nations (I don’t know is such thing exists in other countries but let’s assume it does).
I have no idea how we are going to be a better society neither do I know how long it will take for us to get there. What I do know is, safety starts with understanding the constrains that we live in. If you are walking a tightrope with blazing flames or a thousand-meter gorge underneath, then it is foolish, senseless and naïve to dance on that rope. For your own sake, please find that balance.
Self-defense, support system, better law enforcement and all of that is “after” you encounter an unfortunate incident. What you do “before”, such that no such incident occur, is what is important for you and for those who love you. If it means compromising with your freedom, I suggest you do that. If it means defining your safe zone then please do that.
I am sorry, I do understand that men at large have failed to be decent and I am part of it in whatever capacity that I am. We as men will try our best to evolve and help other men think better, that much we can do. But I do not know how long it will take, I do not know if we will bring about miraculous transformation in the way men think. It will take time and a bigger effort. Bigger than lighting symbolic candles!
Till such time, light one candle for yourself, please be safe and find your balance my lady. Please.